If you're in the spotlight (or want to be) - read this....

Social networking sites? Oh dear, they are potentially..... bad news for us.

Facebook, Twitter and the rest are meant to help us stay connected to friends, build new relationships and enhance our lives.

But in some instances.... the opposite is happening.

Ever had a negative comment from a photo you've put up of yourself?

How about when you've read something a friend has written about you ...that touched a 'nerve'?

Does it ever feel like other people's lives are so much better than yours?

What about when you look at pictures of celebrities (and even your friends) and in your eyes - you look a total disaster compared to any of them?

The power of social networking is strong. So your belief in yourself - and all you have going for you - has to be even stronger.
If not, you are in danger of being the biggest bully in the world - TO YOURSELF.


So what can you do about it? - here's a few ideas:

1. Whenever you have a camera pointing at you :

think of something funny that will make you smile naturally.

focus your mind on what makes you feel good. If you think 'oh god I look awful today', or 'I hate having my picture taken' - that's exactly what will show up on camera.

2. Find that you are comparing yourself to others?

remember that everyone has little 'gripes' about themselves - but the ones we hear the most (and loudest) are our own. Tell the negative voice in your head to take a running jump, and bring in a voice that only focuses on what is good about you.

all is not what it seems. Celebrities have 'demons' too - and often they are played out in public which magnifies their issues even more. At least we have a degree of privacy - be grateful for that.

3. Read something hurtful about yourself?

stuff is often said in the heat of the moment - and in hindsight is regretted. So don't allow a hurtful comment to linger in your head. It could drag you down unnecessarily.

laugh it off - (at least someone is thinking about you).

remember you are likely to make the situation worse if you join in and 'hit back'. Is it really worth it?

So stay connected for the right reasons, have fun, and remember that you have a 'voice', so you use it wisely .

You get back what you give out in life.

Everyone has a life behind the image - and no ones' is perfect - so don't be fooled by the image you see.

And - Believe In You.

Look for and focus on your best ingredients, anything else just isn't important.
 

Trust me.

Amana

Straightforward, straight talking coach.

http://www.amanawalker.com/

Social network addict?...Oh dear, danger ahead!

Oh dear, because potentially..... it's bad news for us.

Social networking sites are meant to help us stay connected to friends, build new relationships and enhance our lives.

But in some instances.... the opposite is happening.

Ever had a negative comment from a photo you've put up of yourself?

How about when you've read something a friend has written about you ...that touched a 'nerve'?

Does it ever feel like other people's lives are so much better than yours? 

What about when you look at pictures of celebrities (and even your friends) and in your eyes - you look  a total disaster compared to any of them?

The power of social networking is strong. So your belief in yourself - and all you have going for you - has to be even stronger.   

If not, you are in danger of being the biggest bully in the world - to yourself.

So what can you do about it? - here's a few ideas:

1. Whenever you have a camera pointing at you :

•  think of something funny that will make you smile naturally.
•  focus your mind on what makes you feel good.  If you think 'oh god I look awful today', or 'I hate having my picture taken' - that's exactly what will show up on camera.

2. Find that you are comparing yourself to others?

•   remember that everyone has little 'gripes' about themselves - but the ones we hear the most (and loudest) are our own. Tell the negative voice in your head to take a running jump, and bring in a voice that only focuses on what is good about you.
•  all is not what it seems. Celebrities have 'demons' too - and often they are played out in public which magnifies their issues even more. At least we have a degree of privacy - be grateful for that.  

3. Read something hurtful about yourself?

• stuff is often said in the heat of the moment - and in hindsight is regretted. So don't allow a hurtful comment to linger in your head. It could drag you down unnecessarily.
• laugh it off - (at least someone is thinking about you).
• remember you are likely to make the situation worse if you join in and 'hit back'. Is it really worth it?  

So stay connected for the right reasons, have fun, and remember that you have a 'voice', so you use it wisely .
You get back what you give out in life.
Everyone has a life behind the image - and no ones' is perfect - so don't be fooled by the image you see.

And - Believe In You.
Look for and focus on your best ingredients, anything else just isn't important.
Trust me.

Want to read more on this subject?  Buy the June edition of 'Bliss' magazine.... and see page 70 . 


Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach.

http://www.walkahead.co.uk/
http://www.amanawalker.com/

Walkahead Blog: The dangers of talking too much...

Walkahead Blog: The dangers of talking too much...: I can't believe just how many people fall into this category.     Yes, we are living in a world with information/ technology/online overloa...

The dangers of talking too much...

I can't believe just how many people fall into this category.    

Yes, we are living in a world with information/ technology/online overload  - but now we have a growing number of people who are adding 'talk' to the noise.

Here's a test for you - ask someone a simple question, and see how longer their answer is.

How many get straight to the point?

The dangers of people who talk too much are huge, so without risking talking too much, here's a few
biggies:

1. They risk losing the plot and end up talking nonsense.
2. They isolate you and are not interested in listening to you.
3. Even if they are interested - they don't stop for you to speak (That's just rude).
4. They build a reputation (and it ain't a good one).
5. Their self awareness is pants.
6. And if they are self aware - hell, they have a big ego!

 So if you are one of these people. Get. Help. Fast.

If you know someone like this - forward this blog post on to them.

Not only would you be doing them a huge favour, you'd be helping to save the world.
It's not (just) about saving our ears. I'm talking about sanity and emotional well being for all.

Who's with me on this?


Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach.

http://www.amanawalker.com/

Walkahead Blog: How do you know when a Footballer is in crisis?......

Walkahead Blog: How do you know when a Footballer is in crisis?......: ....Usually you don't. Until they hit rock bottom that is - then everyone knows because it hits the papers. But that's (arguably) too lat...

Walkahead Blog: Was Whitney ready to die...?

Walkahead Blog: Was Whitney ready to die...?: As another talented artist dies, and the grief is felt around the world - the questions continue to be asked: Why? Was she on drugs? Did ...

Was Whitney ready to die...?

As another talented artist dies, and the grief is felt around the world  - the questions continue to be asked:

Why?

Was she on drugs?

Did she even intend to die?

The question I would add is 'was she ready to die?'......

Whitney loved singing all her life, and after watching her funeral ('coming home') service - she clearly was devoted to her faith. But over the years her struggles were played out in the spotlight for all to see , and no doubt, judge. This surely would have hurt her, and put pressure on her, even more.

There is no doubt that she had loving family and friends around her - supporting her and trying to help her through.
She also (seemingly) entered rehab and help facilities over the years.

But still, she didn't receive the help that she needed.
As with so many stars in the world of showbiz and sports - the right type of help , arguably was not there when needed.

And it's needed most on the climb to the top.  (Not when a star has fallen).  

Whitney had looked everywhere for the help she needed, and she couldn't find it.

That's why I believe she was ready to die.

RIP Whitney. My favourite artists of all time.

Amana

Straightforward, straight talking coach.

www.amanawalker.com