A note to Ella, and her X Factor friends

Ella,

So, you were kicked out of The X Factor.

And are probably even now surrounded by people who want to talk to you , promote you , and yes - use you.

My advice is this:

1. Just remember that the overall 'winner' is not necessarily the winner - you have enough talent to forge a fantastic and long lasting career in the business. The real winner is the one who can cope and excel.

2. Stay away from any negative crap (including people). Think you know what I mean - and those people are already causing you to doubt yourself. Don't listen. No one has the right to make you feel bad UNLESS you allow them to.

3.  Your dream is happening now, stay focused on it and stay true to yourself. Be careful of anyone who tries to change who you are (and saying they know best). They don't.

4. Surround yourself with people YOU like and people YOU trust. Everyone needs support - ESPECIALLY when they are under the spotlight. It's a long fall down without it.

5. Keep your feet on the ground - after all , it's 'only' a job (but a great one!). What's really important is having fun, enjoying life and being healthy.


Finally - Well Done Ella. The. World. Is.Your.Oyster.
Take the stage.

....and pass this note on to your friends, they'll need it.


Amana Walker
Straightforward,straight talking coach

www.amanawalker.com

  

If you're in the spotlight (or want to be) - read this....

Social networking sites? Oh dear, they are potentially..... bad news for us.

Facebook, Twitter and the rest are meant to help us stay connected to friends, build new relationships and enhance our lives.

But in some instances.... the opposite is happening.

Ever had a negative comment from a photo you've put up of yourself?

How about when you've read something a friend has written about you ...that touched a 'nerve'?

Does it ever feel like other people's lives are so much better than yours?

What about when you look at pictures of celebrities (and even your friends) and in your eyes - you look a total disaster compared to any of them?

The power of social networking is strong. So your belief in yourself - and all you have going for you - has to be even stronger.
If not, you are in danger of being the biggest bully in the world - TO YOURSELF.


So what can you do about it? - here's a few ideas:

1. Whenever you have a camera pointing at you :

think of something funny that will make you smile naturally.

focus your mind on what makes you feel good. If you think 'oh god I look awful today', or 'I hate having my picture taken' - that's exactly what will show up on camera.

2. Find that you are comparing yourself to others?

remember that everyone has little 'gripes' about themselves - but the ones we hear the most (and loudest) are our own. Tell the negative voice in your head to take a running jump, and bring in a voice that only focuses on what is good about you.

all is not what it seems. Celebrities have 'demons' too - and often they are played out in public which magnifies their issues even more. At least we have a degree of privacy - be grateful for that.

3. Read something hurtful about yourself?

stuff is often said in the heat of the moment - and in hindsight is regretted. So don't allow a hurtful comment to linger in your head. It could drag you down unnecessarily.

laugh it off - (at least someone is thinking about you).

remember you are likely to make the situation worse if you join in and 'hit back'. Is it really worth it?

So stay connected for the right reasons, have fun, and remember that you have a 'voice', so you use it wisely .

You get back what you give out in life.

Everyone has a life behind the image - and no ones' is perfect - so don't be fooled by the image you see.

And - Believe In You.

Look for and focus on your best ingredients, anything else just isn't important.

Trust me.

Amana

Straightforward, straight talking coach.

www.amanawalker.com